What you see in your life and how you feel about yourself determines how you will be in your actions. What you see as far as circumstances will go on to determine how you will react to situations or challenges. Therefore your surroundings and the people that are in your life are ultimately because of the choices you have made. You may be in a situation where it’s not the best or have friends that you have no clue where you picked them up from but at the end of the day you created your environment. Now imagine what it would be like to be fully aware, responsible and accountable; imagine how drastically your life would change if you put effort into really making things happen.
When you make the decision to be proactive and consciously responsive, you start to manifest the life that you deserve. Having the knowledge of the absolute universal principles (I’ll go into more detail about later is crucial in becoming an ‘Artisan of Life’. The ABCs of life (Attitude | Beliefs | Commitment) are choices that you make through core competencies that have been practiced and instilled in you. Are you a victim or a victor? Victims play the ‘blame game’ and are never responsible for their outcomes; a bad experience is always because of someone else that put them there. Victims are also lazy and wait for life to happen and usually react to what life throws them. Now if you you choose to be responsible because you know that you control your own destiny, you are disciplined and proactive then you are a victor. You are the author of your own book. You are a creator and a craftsman at life that can achieve anything. Know this.
We live in a day of victimization, the ‘blame game’ that are excuses for our own behaviour. A great website to check out is the Culture of Victims by Zur Institute and you check out some of the outrageous lawsuits of victims.. I’ll be honest, there have been times where I have felt like the victim but I changed the way I looked at my situation, took responsibility and just moved forward but know this: you never really learn the lesson until it’s presented to you again. Right? Ever hear someone say, “Why does this keep happening to me?” Perhaps you have said it. Well it’s happening to you again so you can practice what you have learned, IF you have learned. I used to feel like a victim listening to a girlfriend that kept telling me about her victim stories. I was so tired of hearing the same old story about how the world was always after her and how Blockbuster (a movie rental store back in the day) was going to charge her $29.99 for the movie she rented for 2 days but 27 days later when she didn’t return it they wanted her to pay for the movie as if she had purchased it. She was livid about it and screamed and yelled in my ear and cried. Now if she would have taken responsibility then she would have returned it on time that wouldn’t have happened. I was a victim to her rants but I made the choice and was no longer a victim when I finally decided to let that friendship go. I was drained but it wasn’t her fault, it was mine because I kept answering the phone when she called and I had even taken her back after falling out 3 times! I wish her well but I will not allow that in my life anymore.
Look at all the anonymous support groups out there such as AA, Gamblers Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Codependents Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous, Victims Anonymous and the list goes on. I’m not saying that they are bad to have, it’s great support so people don’t feel alone and there is help to work through it, but again some people abuse it and say that they have a handicap, or a mental illness, or a chronic syndrome (the blame game). Life is happening and it isn’t waiting for you. You can’t control your upbringing, your parents, an abusive relationship, or how people act, or how the sales associate treated you, but you can control how you react with the right attitudes, beliefs and commitments (ABCs).
Choose to make a difference with your life. You can’t look for the fruit on the tree if you haven’t planted the seed and given deep care right to the roots. We tend to only focus on the beautiful, juicy fruit, and in this day and age people want instant gratification. Dig roots down deep into the nutrient soil and focus on nurturing them. Focus on the roots and it will grow beautiful fruit but know that anything good always takes time to come to fruition. If you don’t care for the roots then the fruit that grows may not be grade A. Do you let circumstances bring you down or do you take responsibility for your own life? How do you see challenges? Do you see them as a hindrance or an opportunity to learn and grow? We live in a world of abundance, so really time, money, education, resources are all all excuses that we make.
What does it mean to take charge for your life? What does proactive really mean?
Pro: For. To take action, not living by ‘IFs’, being responsible for your own ABCs
Active: Doing. Being disciplined not lazy, taking action, creating and practicing good habits. Goomnatsoo – Greek for gymnastics
We forget the meaning of life and we have become lazy and we have become sensuously driven, not sexually driven, but driven by senses. What gets your senses going? What gets you excited? For me it’s shopping. The hunt, the deals, touching the fabric, knowing the history of the designer, the way the clothes hug my body, the feeling I get when it fits perfect, the newness, it gets me going and I could shop all day. This feeling and what I am driven by is part of the 5 Ps that I had mentioned in my last entry. Now can you see how that would be driven by senses?
Reactive people focus on the fruit; they react to their senses.
Proactive people focus on the roots; they respond by the nurturing they have given to their roots.
How do you gain more wisdom? Through experiences and lessons. All wisdom really means is being more skilled, a craftsman, or artisan through the 10 MAXIMIZERS which I will break down in future posts. It’s about practicing them until it’s a core competency. Researchers say it takes 21 days for a habit to process. So if you practice a habit over and over for 21 days is becomes a core competency. Then if you practice same thing for another 21 days, it becomes engrained and becomes a parcel of you.
Stop practicing bad habits and start practicing good habits. There are 5 key things for habit formation:
Have a plan
Attach pain and pleasure
Build an accountability structure
Now this is a process, this is not for quick results and it will be painful, and there will be sacrifices, but you need to be consistent and keep training and practicing. You may fall down but don’t freak out, cry or give up, just pick yourself up and try it again. Remember, 21 days of practicing even you keep falling because I am telling you, it will cause great joy as you work over and over again while you develop a good habit. What have you been practicing? Write down some of the good habits you want to achieve and follow the plan. I’ll go into more detail about the 10 MAXIMIZERS and the ABCs of them. Until then, happy training!
How do you define success?
At a glance, and on the surface, to most, the following 5 Ps are what people usually measure success with:
Power | Position | Prestige | Pleasure | Prosperity
Would you agree that all of the above come and go? Perhaps you have a high position but feel you need more power so you put more focus on getting that. Many people have more than 2 or 3 from the list in their lives and some have it all. But do they really? It’s great to have these things but do they offer great satisfaction? How about the journey in attaining those things, what kind of battle did they have in getting them? There would have been some definite sacrifices that aren’t on that list such as family, fun, faith, fitness, finances, firm, friends. Would you agree? Think about some of the people that have achieved these things, where are they now? Maybe many of them have become miserable, greedy and sick during their journey in achieving these things.
I have a personal example of a man I used to work for, I would usually say ‘with’ but his ‘power’ fed his Ego and he was the king so everyone worked ‘for’ him. He had it all, so it seemed. He had power and acted as authority while instilling fear into anyone and everyone that worked for him. He had a very high position in the company and had been there for over a decade and because of that he was viewed as very prestigious. He seemed to have a lot of pleasure from his prosperity and rarely worked and was very proud of that but if you ever said that about him he would use the 5 Ps to put you in your place along with threats. Now was he happy? Clearly not. He was one of the most negative people I have ever met, he held on to the past like it was going out of style. He didn’t take care of his health and he was the type of person who woke up with a smoke hanging from his mouth and a can of Coke for breakfast. He complained day in and day out about how his employees weren’t out making business so therefore his income suffered. There was not one day where he was happy about having all his 5 Ps. Does this sound like success to you? He was a victim which I will talk abut in the next blog.
You can find many others in history and even the celebrities now that are miserable, greedy, sick or become addicted to alcohol and drugs and then eventually die a lonely, unfulfilled life because all they ever wanted to achieve were the 5 Ps or more of it. But that is what they think success is. Don’t get me wrong. The 5 Ps are great to achieve but what I’m talking about here is authentic success. How do we define authentic success and what does that mean to you? Success is all about one’s perspective. Are you successful? What would others say about you? What would your peers say? What would you family say? What does your body say? And what does your heart really say?
How driven are you by the 5 Ps? Success is much more than power, position, prestige, pleasure, prosperity, wouldn’t you agree? Quite often we are hard on ourselves, or perhaps our family, or partners, have huge expectations for us to have that. What drives you is crucial to defining what success is for you. What is authentic success? How you answer that is by questioning your own life and significance. How do you want to be remembered? Is what you are doing going to leave a legacy for your family, community or the world? At the end of your life how would you know that you have succeeded? What would people say at your funeral and would you have touched so many lives that people weep at your funeral? To have authentic success is having an integrated life and winning in all areas; professionally and personally, being balanced in all areas and really cross training your pillars of life. It is really about enjoying the journey and the process to becoming the success you want to be. It’s about contributing and giving back through absolute universal principles that bring everything together. It’s about working on bringing out the AUTHENTIC YOU.
I’m a dreamer, in fact, I dream a lot; however, I also believe in processes and systems to help in manifesting all you want to come into fruition through the energy and vibes that are put towards a goal you are focussed on. I can tell you that all that I have and all that I have experienced I have willed it, or attracted if you will, into my life; the good and the bad, just as you have. Often I come across people who are the exact opposite; the realists, dun dun dunnnn… And that’s ok with me because we are all unique and whatever makes you happy makes me happy. But for some reason realists love to challenge me. For example, I came across a gentleman at the airport at the wine bar and we got to chatting while we waited for our plane and I shared with him some of my life experiences and as usual I am very colourful in all that I do and strive to do, and as usual in my experiences, idealists always look at me dazed and somewhat confused and give me that sympathy smile and tell me how fantastic it is that I have very big dreams and that they are fun to think about but are only tall tales and they will never come true. That is amazing to me that people would want to try to burst someone’s bubble like that. So basically what this gentleman was telling me, from what I understood, was that ‘he’ is only able to see what is in his radar screen and beyond that it was impossible for him to see anything else but all that he deserved to acheive.
(1) An idealist practices envisioning things in an ideal manner/form, or in a simpler term they aim for perfection and new heights. (2) The idealist sees events as the result of strategic planning of their dreams and a person who cherishes or pursues high or noble principles, purposes, goals, etc.
(1) A realist sees things in literal truth and pragmatism, or more grounded on reality. (2) The realist sees events as the result of local, lower-level tactical decisions; a person who tends to view or represent things as they really are and nothing more.
I listened as he explained to me his life and just as I suspected he worked in a cubicle, he was scared of everything, he saved every single penny and was the type that waits for a special occasion to break out the silver or special dinnerware. As much as I am a dreamer, I admit that there are times where I begin to lose faith a little, not because I’m human (which I will add is a sorry excuse as we are born into this world as divine beings with an abundance of resources and extreme power within that most people need help to unleash); where I don’t believe in myself enough because of the obstacles I am faced with but nothing good comes easy (and I am not talking about relationships – if it’s been that difficult for you and your partner you may want to reconsider).
Others can always see the potential in you but it’s up to you to realize it, believe it, see it, own it and use it.
4. Then there is me, the dreamer, and I am so excited that there is even a glass!!!
No matter what, remember that people’s dreams are theirs. Why burst their bubble? Let them live in their feeling of joy. You’re not Superman, but if you want to be then be there for them when they fall but certainly don’t hold people back when they are ready to take off. If you can imagine it or dream it then planning the necessary steps will get you there. You just have to keep believing and never let the naysayers steer you into their direction because misery loves company. Be aware and fully certain about your dreams and what anyone says will never matter. Happy dreaming and creating!
Certified Coaches Federation Presents: Certified Life and Executive Coach Training – Vancouver, B.C. December 6 – 7, 2014
Interested in building a successful life coach or business coach practice? Are you in a position in your company where you are support for others? Do you work in HR or lead a team of 5 or more?
The Certified Coaches Federation has certified more than 9,300 Life Coaches and Executive Coaches since 2006 (and I am one of them) and is now recognized as one of the Leading Life Coach Certification and Executive Coach Certification Programs in the world! Voted Best Life Coach Training Course 4 years in a row! CCF is now offering our Life Coach Certification and Executive Coach Certification Programs in 100 cities around the world!
The two words used most often when describing our Life Coach Training and Executive Coach Training Courses are brilliance and simplicity! The Certified Coaches Federation offers a succinct course that gets to the heart of the coaching process and has removed any non-essential components in the process of helping our clients achieve their goals!
I want to personally invite you to our 2 day Life Coaching Certification Course, which is being held in Vancouver at the Sylvia Hotel on the weekend of December 6 – 7, 2014 - http://www.sylviahotel.com/.
Our Coaching Program is designed as the “all meat, no fat” course specifically designed to teach you how to coach more effectively, and how to build your business more effectively as a Coach, for those who qualify. Many folks involved in “people helping” are adding Life Coaching Certification as another effective tool in their tool kit, all with the aim of helping our clients remove barriers, achieve their goals, and come to a place of personal, relational and career fulfillment. Some are even growing a practice as a Coach to the point that it becomes their full-time work. In 2 days you can become a Certified Life Coach! All CCF Graduates are automatically enrolled, at no additional cost, into our one year continuing education program as well.
Life Coaching – or self-development consulting – is a new phenomenon. It is gradually gaining prominence and has now spread worldwide. This relatively new profession is emerging because of a major shift in social parameters. In this present day, change has become the norm. Studies that have been conducted indicate that 70% of the participants in coaching relationships reported significant increases in their areas of focus. Several participants described immediate beneficial changes, and 95% cited the process as worthwhile.
Coaching is now estimated to be over a $5 billion/year in the U.S., and about $400 million/year in Canada. 60% of American companies use or have used an Executive Coach. The role of a counselor is to help an individual resolve issues of the past in order to operate more effectively in the present. A coach, on the other hand, helps us assess the present so that we can operate more effectively in the future.
Although Life Coaching is clearly therapeutic in that its aim is to enhance an individual’s performance or life experience, there are significant differences between this and psychotherapy. Coaching is short term (generally between 3-12 months) and is solution based. Coaching therapy understands the client is able and functional, and focuses primarily on the present and future, and not so much the past. Coaching is a results-orientated systematic process in which the coach facilitates performance enhancement and life skills development, rather than treating dysfunction. This difference means that a coach can be far more vigorous and challenging (albeit in a client-friendly manner) and can hold their client responsible for their commitment to change to a greater degree than the therapist can.
We are aware that you looking at your options. Please consider the Certified Coaches Federation. We will help you not only coach people, but build your business in a people focused and profitable way.
If you are interested and have any questions about the course, please call me at your earliest convenience at 403-389-1190. Or you can call Derrick at 1-866-455-2155. You can also gather information or register online at www.certifiedcoachesfederation.com.
The investment for this weekend registration is only $979 + HST. This includes the two day training, enrolment in the one year Continuing Education Program, Certification as Certified Life Coach, and one free Coaching session with your facilitator, a Master Coach. If you are able to refer someone who registers and takes the course, we will also pay you $100. If you register 28 days before the course begins or earlier, you also qualify for our early-bird discount of $100. So the cost can be $979, or $879, or even $779, plus tax.
Lastly, everyone who registers for the Certified Coaching Practitioner Training, as above, can also now take our world class Hypnolinguistics Course for free!
Hypnolinguistics® is a course that teaches coaches how words impact the coaching process from a cognitive and psycho-linguistic perspective. Have a look: http://www.hypnolinguistics.com/
In essence, we are offering two courses for one!
The Registration Cost for the program includes:
- The 2-Day Intensive Program,
- A follow up one-on-one coaching session with the trainer,
- Ongoing membership to the Healthy Wealthy and Wise Membership Area,
- Monthly tutorials – one on coaching skills & strategies; one on the business building & marketing aspects of coaching. There is also an archive of 12+ months of tutorials,
- Full audio program – which review the essential concepts of the 2 day-intensive,
- Downloadable copies of the course forms,
- Downloadable Certified Coaches Federation Logo to use in your business materials
- Access to Hypnolinguistics® - http://www.hypnolinguistics.com/
To register for our upcoming Certified Coaching Practitioner Training, simply log on to www.certifiedcoachesfederation.com, or call 1-866-455-2155.
In essence, we are offering two courses for one!
Here is a short video of some who recently took the course with me…
If you have specific questions, I would be more than happy to chat here back and forth, or on the phone. I am the Vancouver Master Coach Trainer for the Certified Coaches Federation.
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The financial consequences of a serious illness are often worse than those of death. In addition, the chances of a critical illness attack on any of us are much higher than those of death, at least before retirement age. Critical illness coverage/insurance is a long-term insurance policy where you’ll get a ‘lump sum’ of money tax free. Think of it as a one-off payment if you’re diagnosed with one of the serious illnesses covered by your insurance policy. Let’s face it, in these high stress times, it is more often that someone is diagnosed with heart attack, stroke, end stage renal failure, major organ transplant, or a total loss of hearing or sight. If you think about which friend or family member that has recently been diagnosed it is always surprising and these are the kinds of surprises people don’t like. But it happens, daily. CI coverage is designed to pay off your mortgage, debts, or pay for alterations to your home such as wheelchair access should you need it, because when you are diagnosed with a critical illness and need time off from work for treatments your employer will not be paying you for time off. As well, the medication and treatments that are not covered by your health plan can be very costly. Again, the money you get from a critical illness policy can be used to pay off a mortgage or rent, to pay for medical bills, on going bills or for anything else.
When might you need critical illness cover?
Never rely on benefits from the provincial government to support you if you become critically ill – these are always less than you think. Trust me, my mother soon found out the hard way when she was diagnosed with cancer and opted out of disability insurance and critical illness insurance. She lost her job, so she had no income. Not all of her treatments were covered by Alberta Health Care and she didn’t have benefits from work, and even if she did she wasn’t working so those benefits would not apply to her if she is no longer at the company. Guess who ended up taking care of her rent, medical bills, groceries, income for her? You got it; me. My mother opted out of insurance even though I said I would pay for her premiums she didn’t want to do the health exam and then a couple years later she was diagnosed with nasal pharynx cancer. And now being 64 her premiums are well into the hundreds per month. If you are young and healthy now is the time to get insurance on your life. The longer you wait, the more expensive it will be and if your health starts to go then you may not be qualified for insurance.
Critical illness coverage could be a good choice for you if:
- you do not have savings to tide you over if you were seriously ill
- you do not have a good employee benefits package to cover a period of time off work due to sickness
- your high-risk profession prevents qualification for traditional disability coverage
- you have a high medical deductible
- you don’t have health insurance
- you are a parent
- you are self employed
- you are a homemaker
Some people think they are well protected because they have life insurance and some disability insurance. They are probably wrong. Critical Illness coverage is not a substitute of life insurance or disability insurance; rather it fills the gaps left by that coverage. You need it not because you may die soon, but because you are going to live.
Why would anyone need critical illness insurance benefits? Below are examples of what a small monthly investment of less than $15/month* do:
- Cash to pay your mortgage while you are recovering.
- Cash to pay for medical treatments that are not covered by your health plan.
- Cash to pay bills – from car payments to insurance premiums.
- Cash so you can travel for treatments not available locally (taxi rides are not covered).
- Cash to pay for experimental treatments (not covered).
- Cash to replace a spouse’s income while caring for the insured.
Whether the insured recovers from the disease or not and whether the insured is able to go back to work or not, have no effect on the payout of the benefit. I know you’ll find a way to put the cash to good use. Message me for your free critical illness quote. CI policies start as low as less than $5/month. The critical illness benefit works very similar to the lump sum cancer programs and pays a cash benefit to you upon diagnosis of a critical illness. The benefits range from $10,000, $25,000 or a $50,000 benefit. If you are in Alberta, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for your no cost benefit package which includes a $2000 certificate for your family when you pass, along with a vision discount program, child safe kit, and much more.
*Pricing depends on how much money you would like to receive.
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My foodie friend extraordinaire Terry Lo, aka @calgarydreamer for all your palette preferences, invited me out with his Master Wife (love them and their story!) to the grand opening of a restaurant called Workshop (@workshopyyc), which is located in the Historic Grand Theatre on 6th Avenue and 1st Street. Confused that a swanky little Japanese infused restaurant was enveloped by the walls only a couple of years ago has now been replaced by this nouveau, artsy meeting place where integrative live cuisine is crafted and meets with creative minds stimulating the taste buds with diversified aromas. The gatherers were chic, trendy, and aesthetically eclectic.
Kenny Kaechele – (@chefkenny) Chef/Owner took us down memory lane with his previous creations at Mescalero’s and classic restaurants and his story of his hardships and passion to keep moving forward, tears were amongst the crowd and his son who was video taping this on his phone seemed to be have a huge turning point in his life as he watched his father’s dream come true. The story was all heart and soul and the crowd was life family. Conrad Sawatsky is the general manager and happily mingling and welcoming everyone. I will definitely be back with a group of friends to enjoy the long social table they have in the middle by the kitchen and bar!
I keep hearing people say that life is a game, this so called Game of Life; so basically some people are leaders and winners but most people are not, they do what they are told. I used to think that way too, especially with all the challenges, and boulders, and different levels. But we weren’t put on Earth to play a game of survival of the fittest. We are all meant to enjoy the co-habitation and co-creation of this beautiful planet.
Life isn’t a game, it’s a state of being. Take away uniforms, titles, labels, chains, stereotypes and conditions to reveal our authentic Self. To only exist would be to live in default, but to be conscious, in this very state of reality, with an awareness of the divinity that resonates deep in your very core IS LIFE and what the meaning of what life is, a knowingness. What defines us is not about material wealth , it’s not about status and seniority and keeping up with the Jones’, nor is it about being superior than anybody else. We are all equal. Beautiful things are to be enjoyed, no doubt; fast cars, dream homes, vacations, beautiful wardrobe, but the ultimate goal is happiness and if you are killing yourself chasing those things then the intent is not from within.
Contentment. Within. All that you accumulated or have not accumulated is up to you to be deemed happiness worthy. This very moment. That just past. Now is always. The only moment is now. And having the ability, mindset and appreciation of abundance is the only way to change your state and your goal is to always feel good NOW. A awakened state of being into the light of an Indigo soul….
I dislike hearing anyone being poorly treated at work. If you run your own company, or you are a manager of a group of employees can you please show your staff some R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? You think you have the upper hand and the power trip you are on is sooooooooo cool because you are finally where you always wanted to be, on top of a corporate pyramid. Remember where you came from. Remember how hard YOU had to work to get to the top. How did you feel when your boss or senior treated you like you weren’t worth anything? Is this pay back time for the chip on your shoulder?
Remember why you are doing what your doing. It’s not to run people to the ground or play games in a way to feed your Ego. Your employees work hard for YOU, they are building YOUR empire for YOU, they actually pay YOU if you think about it. It’s not cheap to have so many staff turnover and if you think it’s your staff that are the idiots, then may this be a reminder that your team is as only as good as you are. These people could work somewhere else but they choose to stay at your company with you.
If you want your company to succeed, screen better, hire better, train better and treat people with respect. Pay them well and tell them how grateful you are to have them and what great work they are doing for you. Stop picking at their faults and start praising them. If you hit a child they will cry. If you hit them more do you actually think they will stop crying? At the end of the day they are still human and someone’s family and you wouldn’t want anyone treating your momma or children with disrespect would you? But first have some respect for your Self so you can respect others.
Studying for my insurance license has made me realize how much I really didn’t know about company benefits, life and disability insurance, all the way to critical illness and long term disability. Like most, I thought I knew what I was covered for; however, there are so many limitations that you have to familiarize yourself with as to not be surprised when the time comes for you or a loved one to make a claim. The more people I speak with the more I realize they have no clue either. Because this hits home for me, as my mother fell ill with cancer and then finding out that she didn’t have any disability or critical illness coverage, but I’ll share that with you in later posts. My ultimate goal and where I am most in my element, moving forward, is not to be that ‘greasy insurance ‘sales’ person’ but to really educate people while coaching them on how to protect their family, loved ones and estate. LIFE HAPPENS! We do not have crystal balls.
Learning more about this industry and sharing it with my network has presented real life stories of tragedies and noble planning. The ones that said they didn’t need it, or said that it wouldn’t happen to them are the ones that would have benefited from insurance the absolute most and of course they look back and hind sight is always 20/20. Although most may see this as another item stretching an already tight budget (and if your budget is already this tight then insurance is a must if you have nothing else to fall on), life insurance isn’t about the need for it NOW, it is about planning for unforeseen events and not leaving your family devastated as well as in debt. Let’s face it, partner or no partner, children or no children, coverage is needed for your estate and immediate family. When you leave, someone has to take over for your material life and it would be a shame to leave that with a family member or partner who may not be able to and then putting them in a financial crisis.
Life and disability insurance is a safety net, a financial safety net. If you don’t think you need it I bet you can look back at a time where a family member, a friend or an acquaintance all of a sudden passed away or had a quick turn in their health leaving them or their partner stranded for income. I remember a friend of a friend who had a heart attack at 37; she was a yoga instructor, a vegetarian, didn’t drink, never smoked. Another example, my friend’s father who was in better shape than the rest of his pot belly, beer drinking friends, and he had a double heart bypass surgery at the early age of 62. Remember the 30 year old who was rollerblading and fell, hit his head on the cement and died even with the protection of a helmet. One of my friend’s mothers suddenly died in her sleep. Remember that even if you are covered at work you are not really ever fully covered. And once you leave, get fired or laid off, your benefits do not follow you and if you wait until you think you need it your premiums will be much higher as you get older.
Thank you so much for taking time to read this very important entry as I embark on a new journey, yet with the same passion for helping others. As it would be my great pleasure and honor, I hope that one day you will allow me to sit down with you and your family to go over your current policy to ensure that you are making educated and sound decisions on the protection of your future and loved ones. Many blessings! @RinaChong
Things aren’t going well? If you find yourself asking “Why is this happening to me?” often, there are two reasons why:
1. It’s fortifying you
2. It contributes to your growth
We’re not put on Earth to learn lessons. That is most definitely not our purpose. Our purpose is to be creators and work together and be happy as we contribute to the world together. Most may say that is in a perfect world. Whatever you think it it is, it shall be. The world is perfect just as it is, you only have to open your eyes to the beauty that surrounds you and focus on the positive. Sometimes we go through life with the best intentions and wonder why we deserve such pain, most of it is self inflicted when you really think about. How can someone do anything to you? They can do something horrible, sure, we have all experienced pain body individual in our lives that only know how to hurt others and of course you are allowed to go through the motions, but let me ask you, how long do you want to be in that negative space for? All the bad things that happen to you only fortifies you if you allow it to and only when you stop playing vicitim. Just remember that 2 years from now you will look back and it will only be a distant memory and if you allow it, I’m sure it has made you a stronger person and an even stronger person when you thank it for being a past experience and necessary contribution for your growth.
If you find yourself in the same situation again, take this opportunity to deal with it accordingly and from what you have learned from the last experience. How will you handle it this time? What can you do differently that will bring you a different out come? When you are presented with the same situation again (abusive partner, bad business deal, being ripped off, being backstabbed) and you use your knowledge from the last time it happened, only then does that become wisdom. No matter how many books you have read, how many seminars you have attended, remember this: knowledge is nothing until you apply it to your life. You really haven’t ‘learned’ anything until it is presented to you again. What you do, being as mundane as some of the things seem to be, is all to prepare you for the future. To strengthen you so you can take on what is coming up next for you.
Being aware of the drama you are creating for yourself or for others and let Karma work by herself. If you are not happy where you are now then it is only a decision away to make a change. And if you are not happy where you are NOW, you will not be happy when you get THERE. You will not get anymore in life if you cannot appreciate all that you have now. Does that make sense? There is help everywhere, an unlimited abundance of resources; all you have to do is seek and find and ask and receive. Then there are those people that don’t practice what they preach and sing about love and collaboration when all they do is take and hurt. They are called pain bodies as mentioned before, and that is all they know, and trust me, like attracts like so be very wary of those people and people that are associated with them, guilty by association. I’m not talking about judging but using your common sense and being selective with you who surround yourself with. There is only so much you can do for someone before it starts taking away from you. Remember that helping someone should be rewarding for you within and if it starts to take a toll on your spirit or your bank account it may be time to reconsider your expertise.
Life is a series of events. When you are able to see things coming you will be more prepared and that means using your common sense and instincts. I can’t stress how much the Universe speaks to you daily, you just have to quiet your mind and meditate on anything you are questioning. When you don’t listen the Universe it eventually screams at you and usually when it’s too late then you have no other choice and are forced to make changes. I have also learned that there are many hints that let you know when something isn’t right. So listen to them and you will find yourself in less sticky situations. When friends and family are telling you something it’s not because they are out to get you, it’s because they care for you. Don’t learn things the hard way. Be open and do your due diligence. Check out source and remember, all hardships are meant for your personal growth. Look beyond the pain and see the light at the end of the tunnel. You can do this because you were meant to handle all that God presents to you.
Whatever you put your mind to, it has to be happy, positive reinforcing thoughts. No matter who you pray to, with, for, or what you wish for yourself or for anyone, friend or foe, your thought is a formless subtstance but it is a substance in which all things are formed.
The way anyone does anything is a result of the way they think about things which leads them to how they do things which creates the truth of their reality. Things are made up by thoughts. Your body is made up of your thoughts. Your entire life is made up from your thoughts. All that was imagined is put into fruition.
When a producer has a thought about a movie, he puts those thoughts into action and that movie is created with other forms of thoughts that he shared in order to create the whole production. Just like how a house is built by thoughts and the creation of other thoughts put into the plan. So much like your life! The only way that your ideas or dreams that you thoguht of will not work are your limitations to it not working out so if you want it work out think that they will. You thought it, therefore it can be real. Believe and take action because THOUGHTS ARE THINGS AND SO ARE DREAMS.
LIVE AND IN PERSON The REAL WOLF OF WALL STREET – JORDAN BELFORT Vancouver May 1 | Calgary May 2 | Montreal May 12 | Toronto May 15
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Surprise! Here I am completely exposed to the world and my heart is still the same even without the war paint. I have been a makeup artist ever since after taking cosmetology in high school then getting trained by Christian Dior and Nars and every now and then I do a gig. If you know me then you know I am a creative; I love to paint (you can see some of my work in my blogsite), write, make jewellery, design, style, and I have always loved applying makeup on people and enhancing their beauty and it always gave me great pleasure to see the smiles and look of surprise when I was able to bring forth their features. So like a blank canvas a fresh face is my favourite canvas!
I started to see some ‘no makeup’ photos of friends on my social networks and remembered hearing about this last year on a talk show and just yesterday my friend had posted one of herself and challenged me along with a few other women to post a no makeup photo. This was not a challenge but a blog post and a couple fresh shots of me after a good cleanse. Thank goodness I had just seen my aesthetician, Chelsea Stepura, last week because she gave me the most incredible facial after my sun exposed skin from Cancun and now I get an excuse to post my squeaky clean skin!
What’s the big deal about this no makeup challenge? Makeup is bad for you, it’s a crutch, you’re trying to be someone you’re not, your just trying to hide your flaws, etc. If this was the case then being exposed would be a challenge for some. I enjoy applying makeup, can I go without it? Of course I can: on the beach, to the gym, when I don’t need to represent or when I’m working at home I love going au natural. It’s like my Sunday shampoo and I make sure that at least once a week I let my hair dry naturally. I am perfectly happy with who I am inside and I choose makeup and skin care that is good for my skin. Whatever makes you happy. If you look good, you feel good. Am I addicted? No. But I do enjoy it as much as fashion. It’s fun and shows off your style and creativity. Yes, we are already unique in our own ways but there’s nothing wrong with being extra feminine and feeling extra beautiful. Unless you’re a witch as soon as the makeup comes off then that could be a problem or you need to pack it up Mount Kilimanjaro. Everything around is just an illusion anways, makeup, clothes, the car you drive, the house you live in should not define you. Like anything, do it or wear it for you. The only thing worse than wearing too much makeup is wearing the wrong shades for your skin tone. If anyone would like a mini online skin consult I would love to hear from you! Be you!
Talk about disconnecting for a few days….that was definitely a first, losing your phone helps with that as well. I’ll make this short because I have to head back to the beach to work on the back side of my tan (I’m looking like a pancake that hasn’t been flipped yet). Things that I have most reflected upon my vacation on the beaches of Cancun so far:
#1 The Modern Ladies of Inluence Luncheon - I wanted to thank each and every single woman that came out to the event last Saturday, WOW WOW WOW! I have been on the beach meditating and feeling so much gratitude for the people that I have been surround by, I know that the challenges I have endured, the hard work I put in along with crazy late nights on the computer even after my day contracts have ended has put me exactly where I want to be and it doesn’t stop. I was floored to see an even higher number of women that come out to the event, an over sold out luncheon. I’m smiling from all of the lovely messages and the anticipation for the next luncheon happening April 5th! It’s always the last week where I am frantic about everything and then when the day comes I remember why I put these events on and my heart is smiling once again. The energy, the beauty and love in one room is so rewarding. I am so grateful for everyone that has been or is still part of this group and I am so honored to be able to attract the kind of people that are carte blanche, grade A spirits, high integrity and most of all self respect. If you haven’t registered for a luncheon yet, please check out the link above to see what these positive and enlightening gatherings entail. I connect and collaborate with only the best, it has always been a strength of mine and when this happens beautiful things are created; allowing everyone to shine so bright! I’m taking this nation wide and then heading south. Inspiring and changing bits of the world one luncheon at a time. Thank you, thank YOU, THANK YOU. Like us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter.
#2 Letting Go – and I mean really letting go. Learning and growing through self enlightenment. It has been heavy on my heart and for the most part it has always been easy to let things go until this particular situation. This time it has been harder as I was being bullied. I say ‘was’ because I have finally let it go as of February 1st. When I lost my phone Monday night a couple of things came into play. The first was that being bullied is not fun at all and that has been hard to let go; not only the being bullied part but I literally had to get authories to fight to get my belongings back from someone that I had done a ‘live in’ metabolic reset through. I was being taken advantage of when I leant out my vehicle to this person and she didn’t give it back. When I wanted it back she wouldn’t give it back, said I needed a letter to get it back, so she impounded my car and $200 later I got it back with my GPS smashed and all my CDs broken in halves. The back seat looked like a dozen dogs had a mud wrestling match in it.
The next has been my belongings that were in her place, I’m not talking about just a scarf or a pair of sandals, I’m talking about LV’s, Chrissy Lou’s, Kate Spade, part of my shoe collection, all of my best business clothes, jackets, the list goes on and a computer with all of my son’s baby pictures that I was going to make a collage out of for his 18th birthday next month, everything that I worked so hard for over my years, stolen. She won’t give it back. She has lied to the authorities and says she doesn’t have any of it. I struggled with this. Hard. All material things, yes, but it’s about the principle, the truth, I was imprisoning myself to this persons selfish ways and later found out that she has been sued before for doing something similar so this is just the way she works. People are the way they are. You can’t change them. When family or close friends or ex-coworkers of someone tells you to stay away from the person, they aren’t out to get you, they are trying to save you. That was my lesson x2. Yes, this is the second time I didn’t listen because it is their experience, not mine…so I thought. I never said I was perfect. I am learning and experiencing what my soul needs to for this lifetime.
Coming back to losing my phone. Be very careful what you wish for. I was still on the iPhone 4s and really didn’t like my phone since CES Vegas after I saw what Samsung was up to, best technology in my opinion. If anyone has an iPhone I’m sure we would have the same complaints, freezing, short batter life, pocket moving the apps, et cetera, et cetera. I was out for a night in Cancun and and from the restaurant to the cab my phone was gone. So there you go. I didn’t like my phone and wanted a Samsung and I was waiting for the phone to crap out so now I will get what I wished for. It was more about the photos that I took here the first couple of days, the phone I don’t care so much for. Now this comes back to letting go. I am free of the fight, the police, my friends and son have tried contacting her and she has blocked them, it’s her karma for keeping things that are not hers and clearly, I will get better replacement items as well as a new celly and she needs it more than I do. The point of this is about letting go but it’s also about going with your gut, if people are doing things that are not in alignment with your morals and values then that is how they will be with you in business. Ensure that people are who they say they are, check their credentials, make sure that your trainer or nutritionist is certified and looks the part. You wouldn’t get your hair done by someone who has bad hair, right? I am finally exhaling and just remember, any time is the right time to make things right with someone. Be wise about who you connect with as well as how you disconnect with people. It’s a small world and bridges must not be burned. Sorry to hear that Calgary is -30. You should all be here on the beach with me!!!
With the intent of love,
I pray for peace and I wish for healing. We are aware of the continuing violence around the world and even in our communities, and I’m not just talking about the physical violence but the war that is between friends and families and within ourselves. As we each try to find our own way through our complex inner emotions, I want you to know that you are not alone in your struggles or fears. Even as tragedy and suffering still occurrs to so many people and has throughout history, remember all the good and all the love that has been created through the passionate and kind voices calling for peace and healing.
Tonight I am saying a special prayer for those in the dark, those that are running, those that are hurting, those that hurt and those that are alone. You must open your eyes to the light that shines and be open to a new understanding that all that you have known is not all that you will ever know, nor all that will ever be. Let go of what does not serve you any longer, embrace change and allow yourself to heal and trust again. Sweetest dreams everyone. Tomorrow you will shine brighter than you did today. I’ve had many friends take their lives and want you to know that you may be that light for someone and to never judge someone walking down the street or take their grumpiness to heart because you don’t know what someone is going through or has gone through until you walk a mile in their shoes. And if you are that person that is in the dark, call for help, call me. I don’t care how late it is just call me and if I don’t pick up just text me or message me here. I am serious. You are not alone and you are very much loved but you need to ASK for help.
As I reflect on 2013, I could actually cringe, but I know for certain that I am not leaving any of it behind. And by that I mean I want to take all that I have learned and experienced with me into my new year as guidelines for 2014. Only my very close friends and family know that the last year was probably one of the most difficult years I’ve ever had, but it was also one of the most fun, exciting and rewarding times in my life; pertinent to my personal development and where I am now. I came out a little bruised, but I took time out the thank my hardships and the people who I let go and the ones that walked away because I came out stronger and wiser and I would probably do it again. Ok, no, but in reality when you know what you know, you just know, you know? How is there such a thing as a mistake when clearly at that moment you made the best choice with the facts that you had gathered. I am proud of remaining graceful and grateful when things headed south and I over came my fear of losing everything when in truth, everything that I had was all in my heart and no one could ever take that away from me. Society through media, or perhaps your next door neighbour, will sometimes make you feel like you don’t have enough or that you aren’t enough because you don’t have enough. Times are changing and so are the old ways of thinking. My purging of old energy was difficult at first because it was all familiar, but letting go is so empowering and so cleansing.
When a new year arrives, so many of the same resolutions are made from the years before. I laughed when I asked my friend what his resolutions were and he said his was to do the ones he made last year. For the last few years before 2013, like many people, I stopped making resolutions because I never followed through with them. They were the usual: work out more, eat less junk, cut out red meat, spend less, etc. We are all great at goal setting but what is a goal or dream without a plan? I stopped making promises to the usual resolutions because those are things everyone should be doing on a regular basis. You cannot follow through or meet goals if you are not mentally prepared or if you don’t have an actual step by step list of to do’s to get there. So how do you get there? Try setting goals that have to do with Self and then external goals will be met much easier.
Last year, instead of making external resolutions I decided to make an internal resolution and for 2013 it was to use my voice. Yes, it seems like I already do but actually when in doubt I ask what would love do and then I decide. Many people like to challenge me on all sorts of topics and when it get’s a bit aggressive I usually step back and just let the person continue or let them have the last word. Last year I didn’t, I used my voice and spoke up and the freedom that comes with the right to stand up for my beliefs and really speak up was so refreshing and shut out some really negative energy but of course I was still respectful and graceful. I decided to let bullies like that know that if they can dish it then they can take it too. This year I have decided to go with my gut instinct. The very first time. I’ve realized that giving people the benefit of the doubt is wrong. It’s not them, it’s me. Whenever there is doubt it is no benefit to you or your gut. Remember that actions speak louder than words and they must always be in harmony. Stop second guessing your gut because your gut is your second brain if not first in so many ways, physically and mentally. So that’s it folks, go with my gut the first time, never second guess my gut instinct and if someone is doing something that is not in alignment with what I would do or believe, although we are all different, then the time has come when I have to let go of people who are self-destructive. I think that was my biggest lesson for 2013; you can’t help those that hurt themselves without getting hurt yourself. You can only guide someone so far. Moving forward I’m not making any resolutions, I’m making a promise to Self. Cheers to 2014!